How to Rebuild Your Confidence so you can find love after 50
When you look in the mirror, do you see your magnificence, or does every flaw pop out and drive you crazy?
Maybe you’ve gained a few pounds over the years or gravity and wrinkles have taken their toll leaving you with the feeling you’re not good enough to be a player in the dating game.
You even start believing thoughts like no good man would want you this way which can send you spiraling down a rabbit hole.
Rabbit Holes block your dreams and keep you from finding the right man to share your heart and life with.
So how do you overcome this Debbie Downer Mindset so you can start attracting good men?
Well, it starts by making a list of 10-20 Qualities YOU love about yourself because guess what men are most attracted to in women?
The Glow Inside of you that lights you up!
To fire up that Inner Glow, play some of your favorite music . . . the type that makes you feel really good inside.
Then look in the mirror and read your list to yourself.
It’s powerful and it helps you get your mojo up quickly.
Part of the reason our inner glow dims is that we can be so overly critical of ourselves.
Now here’s a tip I hope will put your mind at ease . . . men don’t pick apart all your parts and pieces as you do.
When a man likes you, he likes all of you and accepts you just as you are.
This is huge and something most women don’t realize.
And that’s why its important to start turning this negative self talk around.
You ultimately want to be focusing on the good parts of you.
And the way to do this is by playing a game I like to call the ‘3 to 1 game’.
It goes like this…
When you have a negative thought about yourself, grab your list, look in the mirror, and share with that beautiful woman you see, three positive thoughts about how amazing you are.
The ‘3 to 1 game’ is the easiest way to quickly overcome the habit of self-criticism.
Plus it gives you an opportunity to see you really are pretty amazing . . . something you can easily forget when no one is reminding you on a daily basis.
By the way, when you feel confident, you will be in the right mindset for attracting the right men to date.
One last thing.
Make a commitment to stop comparing yourself to the woman you were at 20.
A man has no way of knowing what you looked like back then.
When he asks you out, its because he is attracted to you at the age you are today.
You are beautiful as a woman over 50!
Getting back into the dating game after 60 was scary for me. Even though I’ve enjoyed success in every other aspect of my life, dating at this age felt like wanting to take a trip but not knowing where to start and what to do when I got there. Lisa is like a compass, a guide, and a tour director all in one. Her step-by-step guidance gave me the courage to step out, reconnect with my feminine side, and learn how to speak the language of loving relationships again. Most of all, Lisa helped me avoid mistakes that had doomed past relationships. As soon as I began taking her advice I got immediate feedback from men that told me I had regained my Inner Glow.
Now it’s your turn to feel this way.
Make your list of qualities.
Start loving you exactly how you are.
And if you need help reach out and let’s talk about how coaching can help you find love with the right man after 50.
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On May 7, 2020 / Uncategorized
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