I recently decided to take a break from online dating. I am exhausted and my ego is a little wounded. I am told I am very photogenic so I am finding that I probably look better in pictures then real life. So, am I supposed to take bad pictures so I look better in real life? It’s not like the pictures are airbrushed or years old. I am not ugly but not the cheerleader either. I’m the cute cheerleader’s friend. What do men want?!!!
There’s a lot in your short letter, so let me break it down for you quickly:
- If you’re exhausted and your ego is wounded, do yourself a favor:
Vow to approach online dating differently than you have before.
You know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
You know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. That’s what it’s like to date online, hate it, and then go back for more – with the same exact approach.
My program, Finding the One Online, will take all the guesswork out of it for you, holding your hand, step by step, to show you how to choose a dating site, write a profile, post better photos, reply to men, initiate contact with men, and lead men from the dating site to a quality first date. Check it out and let me know when it makes a difference for you.
- You should not take bad pictures so you look better in real life. You should take accurate pictures that reflect how you look now. Finally, I’ll remind you that a camera only capture what’s actually there. Which is to say that if you look good in a photo, you look exactly that way in real life. Please don’t continue to believe false and negative things about your own looks; it’s disempowering. You may be the cute cheerleader’s friend, but guess what? Guys find her attractive, too!
3. Men want to feel instant attraction to you. Attraction is not a conscious choice. It’s a visceral reaction of finding someone sexually appealing.
There’s only so much you can do to affect this – you can’t change your face, for example – but a little effort makes a big difference.
I pay for all my Love U Masters clients to have professional photos at LookBetterOnline. And I encourage everyone to reach out to Kim Seltzer for image consulting that projects more confidence and femininity online and off. Her results are staggering and are guaranteed to attract more quality men to your profile.