Shocking title, I know.
Because you came to this website to read dating tips and advice from this guy, me, who’s been teaching people how to date and connect for 20 years.
But, what I’m about to tell you is controversial and true.
There’s no such thing as a fucking dating expert.
None of the gurus you listen to, none of the people that give advice. They’re not dating experts.
It doesn’t exist. I’m going to tell you exactly why.
I started this thing, this industry.
I was the first person that slept on people’s couches to coach them.
I had people sleep at my house.
But, I had never taught — nor do I ever teach you — how to date, because here is a variable that none of these so-called wannabe dating experts (I’ll get to them in a second) are going to tell you.
I am not on that date with you.
I am not sitting opposite that person you are talking to.
I’m not inside your crazy mind.
I’m not inside their crazy mind.
I’m not with you after the date to download and interpret what is real and what is not real. And, I’m not inside their crazy mind as you speculate and go through the date, just like you’re doing.
You see, what I just described was just two human beings having a human experience.
Nobody can decipher what could and should happen on a date.
Nobody can tell you the “10 things you need to do on a date to make the date successful,” because that’s a variable that doesn’t exist.
Do you want to know why?
Because two random people are going out.
Two random people are there trying to connect. And, two random people are acting the way that they are programmed to act based on their subconscious minds.
So it doesn’t matter if you have 10 tips.
Chemistry and connection happens, not by listening to the so-called dating experts, but by really working on yourself.
That’s why I’m not a dating expert.
I’m a human being expert.
I understand the behaviors of human beings. But I don’t understand what the date opposite you is thinking, nor do I care.
When I work with somebody or coach them, I only care about you, your behaviors, your actions, because you can only control your universe.
So, if you continue to get sucked into the world of dating experts, you’re never going to get anywhere.
A lot of those experts are people that basically have just copied all of the things that I’ve done over the last 20 years, and then stuck their name on it.
How can a 26 year old person call their self a dating expert when they haven’t been married, let alone had that many relationships?
How can they coach you and help you through a relationship? How can they possibly know what it’s like to date in your 40s or 50s?
They don’t know.
So you see, there is no dating expert.
“Dating expertise” is an egotistical business that was started by a man named David Wygant. So, all that most of these dating experts are, is really just ego. They want to tell you what that masses are thinking. But we all know that people are individuals, not the masses.
If you want to be an expert at something, become an expert at yourself.
You see, if you buy my programs or work with me as your coach, I’ll make you an expert on yourself.
That way, you won’t care about what people say to you on a date. It doesn’t even matter, as a matter of fact. You won’t even care because you become an expert and the only thing that you have control over in the first place: yourself.
That’s all you can control.
So, become an expert in yourself.
Work with somebody who teaches you how to be an expert in yourself, so you won’t need to listen to some stupid dating advice by some dumbass 26 or 27 year old person who doesn’t know shit about life yet.
Or an older man woman that hasn’t had a relationship in 15 years and is pissed off and miserable, but yet they’re a dating expert. I know those people, as well.
Become an expert in you.
Control what you can control. You’ll find that you won’t care about what dating experts have to say. You’ll just care about what you are feeling, what you’re thinking, and how you’re growing in to the mystical, magical guardian of you.